Triggers, Choices & Transformation🦂🐦‍🔥

Hello Beautiful Sparkle of Source!

With Venus retrograde in Scorpio, we’re moving through some deeper energies around love, relationships, intimacy, trust, self-worth, pleasure, money, and what we truly value. Scorpio gets right underneath the surface and brings the gritty stuff into the light. Buried emotions, old wounds, and patterns we thought we had already healed come back up, showing us exactly where there is still something to clear.

Old relationships, friendships, memories, emotions, and unresolved issues may come back into our awareness.  Sometimes the energy returns because there’s another layer for us to see, heal, & release.

Relationships can be incredible mirrors during this time. We may notice where we’re over-giving, holding onto resentment, trying to control an outcome, struggling to receive love, or expecting someone else to behave a certain way so that we can feel okay. 

I actually experienced this with my partner a few days ago, similar to what I shared about my mom in the last newsletter. He said something and I could immediately feel a trigger coming on. I knew exactly where that old reaction could take me, but this time I caught it. I communicated what my needs were right then in a loving way not snarkiness like I usually do lol I stayed neutral and centered. 

And something really beautiful happened, he shifted too. His energy changed, he became supportive, and he responded with kind words. What could have turned into an old familiar loop became a completely different experience. It was a big breakthrough for both of us!

That’s the kind of energy I feel we can work with right now. When a trigger appears, instead of immediately stepping into the old reaction, we can observe it. When we stop playing our old part, the entire dynamic has an opportunity to change.

This is a powerful time to pay attention to what’s being revealed, recognize the patterns that keep repeating, release what we’ve outgrown, and get clear about what still aligns with us and what we truly want moving forward.

Ultimately, I feel this energy gives us an opportunity to see how differently we can respond to something that  maybe once had tremendous power over us.

The trigger may still show up. The old story may knock on the door. Another person may even hand us the perfect invitation to jump right back into that old loop.

But we don’t have to accept the invitation!

We can catch the old pattern before it takes over and make a different choice. Each time we respond from where we are now instead of where we’ve been, we create a new experience and stop repeating the same old pattern. 

These energies can also feel intense in the body, especially when old emotions, relationship triggers, uncertainty, or unresolved experiences are coming to the surface. We may feel more restless, overstimulated, emotionally reactive, tired, or have a harder time settling our nervous system down.

When we help the body return to a calmer state, we can see what’s happening more clearly and choose our response rather than letting an old trigger choose it for us.

Really honor these energies for what they can show you. They are gifts. Every trigger, realization, and moment of awareness gives us another opportunity to choose what we want to carry forward and what we’re ready to leave behind. We are creating with every choice we make, so choose the energy, thoughts, and actions that align with the reality you truly want to experience.  Make them good ones!

Tools to Calm, Ground & Support Your Nervous System

Heart-centered breathing — Place one hand over your heart, close your eyes, and take slow, deep breaths. Allow your breathing to gradually slow as you bring your attention back into your body and the present moment.

Get outside and ground — Spend time in nature, put your bare feet on the Earth, sit against a tree, or take a quiet walk to help release excess energy and reconnect with yourself.

Gentle movement — Stretching, walking, yoga, dancing, or even shaking out the body can help move built-up tension and emotions.

Meditation — Take a few minutes to quiet the outside noise, connect with your Higher Self, and come back into your center.

Reduce stimulation — Step away from your phone, social media, news, or anything else that feels overwhelming. Give your mind and body some quiet time.

Calming herbal support — Lemon balm, chamomile, passionflower, and skullcap are some of my favorite herbal allies when we need a little extra calming support.

Rest and sleep — Give yourself extra downtime when you need it. Deep emotional processing can take a lot of energy.

5 Crystal Allies

• Rose Quartz — Love, compassion, receiving, and self-worth.

• Rhodonite — Emotional healing, forgiveness, and working through old heartbreak.

• Garnet — Passion, desire, devotion, and grounding our sexual and creative energy.

• Labradorite — Intuition, energetic awareness, and protection when other people’s emotions feel intense.

• Moonstone — Intuition, calms anxiety, restores organs, reduces anger

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Other Tools for Working With These Energies

Along with herbs and crystals, there are plenty of ways we can consciously work with what is coming to the surface right now:

• Pause before responding. When something triggers you, give yourself a little space before speaking or acting. Ask, “Is this really about what’s happening now, or is this touching an old wound?”

• Journal what keeps repeating. Pay attention to recurring relationship patterns, money beliefs, fears around abandonment, trust, intimacy, self-worth, or receiving. Repetition usually gives us something worth looking at.

• Practice neutrality. Observe the emotion without immediately feeding it. You can feel something deeply without allowing it to determine what you do next.

• Connect with your Higher Self. Sit quietly, meditate, or take a walk in nature and ask, “What am I not seeing clearly? What is this experience trying to show me?”

• Clear your energy. Take a epson salt bath, use healing sounds, spend time outside, work with smoke from your favorite cleansing herbs, or visualize anything you’ve picked up from other people leaving your energy field.

• Do a relationship and energy inventory. Look at where your time, love, money, and attention are going. Ask yourself whether those exchanges still feel balanced and aligned with what you truly value.

• Try a different form of connection. If a relationship has fallen into the same routine, explore another way of being together, go into nature, cook together, have an honest conversation, turn off the phones, or create space for deeper intimacy.

A Release & Realignment Ceremony

Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Light a candle, make a cup of your favorite herbal tea, and place any crystals you want to work with nearby. Burn some Sage or Paulo Santo. Take a few slow, deep breaths and connect with your Higher Self, guides, angels, or whoever you feel supported by.

On a piece of paper, begin writing everything you are ready to release. This could be an old relationship wound, resentment, fear of abandonment, the need to control an outcome, attachment to another person, old beliefs around love or money, or patterns you no longer want to carry forward.

Allow whatever needs to come through to come onto the page. Acknowledge what these experiences have taught you and honor how far you’ve come without judging yourself for the choices you made or how long you carried something.

When you feel complete, hold the paper in your hands and say:

I honor everything these experiences have taught me. I release the patterns, attachments, beliefs, and emotions that no longer align with me. I call my energy back to myself and release what was never mine to carry. I choose love, freedom, abundance, truth, joy, and the reality I want to create from this moment forward.

Tear up the paper and burn it in a fire-safe container. As you watch it release in the smoke, visualize the old energy leaving your energy field and returning to the Earth to be transmuted.

Now take a fresh piece of paper and write down what you are choosing to create instead. How you want to feel, how you want to love, how you want to be loved, and the energy you want to bring into your relationships and your life. Keep this somewhere you can see it as a reminder of what you are choosing moving forward.

Finish by thanking your Higher Self and Team for their love and guidance. Take a few deep breaths, place your feet on the Earth if you can, and bring yourself fully back into the present moment.

As you move through these energies, remember how deeply supported you are. Your Higher Self, your Team, your guides, angels and ancestors are walking beside you every step of the way. You are never navigating any of this alone. Trust your inner guidance, ask for support when you need it, and know that even the challenging moments can lead to greater awareness, healing, and growth. You are loved, guided, and supported more than you know!

With Love ,

Jemaa🌺